To understand how Jesus responded to aggravations, we can consider how he addressed the faults of his disciples and the stubbornness of the religious leaders. When Jesus’ disciples failed to understand him he sometimes gave them an object lesson, e.g., the blessing of the children (Mk 10). More rarely he confronted them as when he called Peter a “Satan” or adversary for failing to accept the actual mission of Jesus as Messiah (Mt 16). Always, his purpose was to teach. Self-pity and pettiness were alien to Jesus when dealing with the pettiness of his followers and others.
In responding to the religious leaders, the same Lord who counseled “turning the other cheek” (Lk 6) called the Pharisees a “brood of vipers”(Mt 23). That was the only way he could get their attention. The issue is not anger vs. gentleness but rather self-concern versus concern for others. Whether gentle or bold, Jesus’ motive was always love.
Teach me prudence, Lord, so that I know what is most likely to heal the hearts of others and my own heart. Purify my heart of self-interest that is insensitive to the real needs of others.